Planning out wedding over the last year has taken me through a huge range of emotions. From excitement, indecisiveness and even regret at times (about things we have brought, not the marriage its self haha). With just over 2 months until our wedding most of the planning has been done and now its final little details that are in progress now. Now I can reflect and review what I would do differently if I could go back and do it again.
Things cost a lot of money.
This is one that I kind of prepared myself for but wow, I am truly blown away by how much things cost. Even when trying to opt for a more Boho rustic theme, companies have caught on with the trends and are charging so much for the most simple of things. You mention the word ‘wedding’ and it’s like vendors just get greedy and it’s kind of disappointing really.
I have been spending a lot of time on Etsy and Pinterest looking for inspiration but then turning to eBay and charity shops looking for alternatives to create the same effect. I have also asked friends and family to keep a look out for items and see if anyone has decor items we can borrow for the day.
Another tip would be to create a spreadsheet with a few columns; Budget, Actual, Balance Paid, Balance Remaining, Balance Remaining Due Date. This has been vital for us to work out what date things need to be paid and how much we have outstanding to pay. Start this spreadsheet early because it's surprising how quickly invoices start coming through.
When the 6 month mark hits, things get crazy!
Final invoices are due, dresses need fitting, decor is starting to be finalised and it all gets very chaotic very quickly. I decided to keep most of my weekends free when it was about 5/6 months before the wedding just so I could have time to plan. Yes I know it sounds funny, planning time to plan, but if I hadn’t done this I would have been so overwhelmed and overworked. Also I have booked a few days off work just to relax and do nothing wedding related. Just make sure you are looking after yourself and not getting overwhelmed with the task at hand.
Wedding planning brings out the best and worst of people.
I have had some really generous people offer to help on the run up to the wedding. People helping to scour charity shops sourcing decor items, even an eBay seller offered me a big discount for order 12 of one item after I mentioned it was for a wedding. But on the flip side, some people get very very greedy! I won't go into too much detail, but its really opened my eyes and going forward after the wedding there are some people who I will not work with again or recommend. I think what I have learnt from the most is that I need to keep my wits about me and be careful who I am giving my money to. Also, letting people persuade you into making decisions you either don’t want to do or are not ready for. So yeah, a bit vague but don’t be scared to stand up for yourself.
Stay true to what you really want.
And following on from the above, too many cooks really do spoil the broth. A lot of the time peoples thoughts and opinions come from a good place. They are excited for your wedding and just want to help. But in the same breath, it can be overwhelming when you are torn between what you like, what your partner likes, and then everyone else’s opinion. It’s your day so you should both try to stay true to what you want. Okay, don’t disregard everyones advice, but if you want a certain type of decor because that’s your style, stick to your guns and don’t let people try and take over.
Trends change and so will your taste.
We booked our wedding in September 2018 and our wedding is over 20 months later. In that time so much has changed.
My best advice would be to hold of buying bold statement decor pieces and things with a lot of colour in until you are 100% sure on the colour palette. I started wanting blush soft pink, then it went to a warm berry pink and then to a dusty coral pink! (spoiler, I now have ended up with all 3 colours throughout the day!) At least they are all pink I suppose. Things like bridesmaid dresses, ribbons, napkins can all be researched before hand but don't really need to be ordered until 5 months before. Flower shapes and styles can be pre arranged too and the exact colour decided 6 months before. This just avoids you making any huge decisions too far in advance and regretting your choices.
So as you can see, its been a huge learning curve! I’m so happy that now all the main planning is over and now the fun part starts, dress fittings, buying accessories and shoes, buying the bridesmaids gifts and most importantly.. choosing what to eat!
Thanks for reading and I hope you have a lovely day.